A Portrait of Jack

Jacky Boy

The picture above is the most recently completed commissioned portrait of Jacky Boy, at the time of writing, May 2017.

Jacky Boy was a dearly loved member of an extended family and will be missed greatly!  Tears appeared when the commissioned portrait was presented.  This portrait will forever more remind the family of their beloved Jacky Boy.

Jack was always ready to fetch his tennis ball – if only he could find someone to throw it for him.

Jack’s portrait came together very quickly and relatively easily on account of the fantastic photos that were supplied with good clear detail.

Suitable verse Isaiah 6:8 selected

The verse used on Jack’s portrait is Isaiah 6:8, the pertinent part of the verse being, “Here am I.  Send me!”

For Flaming good Framing go to Taupo Framing Centre

The framing was done by Margaret at Taupo Framing Centre who always does a wonderful job!  (The above link is to an email address as the website is unknown at this stage).

The glass used in the frame is a brand new type which appears to not even be there compared to the old style glass.  That is, except for when the reflection of the photographer is visible.

 

Setting Up New Life Habits – Start NOW!

A part of personal development is setting up new habits for life that replace the old, ‘bad’ habits that waste our time.

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Read as many articles as possible from sources of valuable information as you can.  By finding websites regarding some areas of interest, I now receive articles from time to time.  Reading these as they make themselves available, is a good reminder for me to stay on track.

Today a good one crossed my path and I want to share it here.  It is from BestSelfCo, and is titled 3 Powerful Ways To Break Bad Habits Once And For All.  Obviously it comes across as a ‘must read’ for someone who is striving for personal improvement!

This is a fantastic article, and by going to the links in the ‘post’ above there are great ideas to help!  The bad habits they use as examples are eating and smoking.  No surprises there!  I made notes from the article about breaking a bad habit.  Then I went ahead and made my own Quit Plan using the points in the article.  There! Attached below is my quit plan!  Made public so now I feel that the accountability space can be filled.

Quit Plan

It seems to make sense to utilise all the information possible to improve daily existence!  Especially when the information is FREE!  What is more – the information is available if one would just seek it, instead of playing cards on the computer!  One of the habits I intend to break is wasting time playing games.

Upon returning to the initial site during an email to share the info, there was time for another link. This one talked about the mindfulness required to quit a habit .   Another powerful learning opportunity regarding the neurological side of our behaviour.  Again this man uses the example of quitting smoking, but it will apply to anything assumably.

Setting up good habits to live by seems to be a great idea for everyone at any stage.  By being objective, standing back and looking in on our lives bad habits become apparent.  A simple choice to negate these habits, however small they may be, will empower one by creating an achievable milestone.  One down – what’s next?

Getting On With Getting On With The Rest Of Your Life!

Getting on with the rest of your life after going through ANYTHING is the most important task in moving on!

Something has happened.  Full stop.  It can’t be changed or undone, it has happened and created some sort of chaos in your life!   It can be ANYTHING major!  Either to you personally, or to someone else and therefore has a direct result on how you live your life.

It could be an injury, it could be a death, a loss of something important, financial pressure, it could be a shocking realization of something new that is different from something you have believed – forever!  Anything that hits you hard, and ‘knocks you for a 6’!

Go Ahead – Grieve For Your Loss

There needs to be a period for the shock to settle on your mind.  A period to ‘grieve’ regarding the ‘loss’ to yourself of whatever has created the sudden shock.  This is the beginning of a realization that whatever ‘was’, ‘IS NOT’ anymore.  I believe there NEEDS to be a period of grieving.

This is a ‘subjective’ perspective to look at the new circumstances from – “This has happened to me, and this is how I feel about it, Oh woe is me!”  This helps to make it real, for the realization to hit home, and for one to hit rock bottom and come to terms with the new reality.  Coping with the new reality comes later, but first there must be acceptance that this is how it is.

Now here is where the hard part has to begin.  It has to come from deep within the mind/soul/heart of the individual.  The hardest part of any sort of trauma we face, I believe, is the acceptance that what has happened, has happened and cannot be undone!

Accept What Is Done – Is Done

Only after accepting the traumatic loss that produced your shock, can you begin to move on.  I prefer to think of this as moving ‘forward’.  Without grieving for what is now gone, reality hasn’t really been faced head on. Once reality is accepted, there is no room for any question as to ‘if only this were to happen’, or ‘I was somewhere else or had something else, THEN things would be different!’

So now one is aware of the new reality, and the changes in life that are a result of it.  Now is the time to become objective rather than subjective, and to look in on the situation as though from the outside of it.  I think of it as; looking in like a fly does from up on the wall.  The fly isn’t entangled in feelings, or restrictions, it can simply see what is going on.

Objectivity vs Subjectivity

Objectivity can see what needs to be done without being overwhelmed by circumstances, or emotions.  Like an object (the apple, the jar) would see things – singular, defined, completely on its own, kind of detached from everything around it.

Subjectivity is from the position of being the ‘subject’, feeling, thinking, and directly affected by all.  ‘I’ am the subject, ‘I’ feel this, ‘I’ think that, and ‘I’ am affected by everything around me.

Objectivity sees the new problem caused by the new reality with the loss of ‘whatever’.  Rather than thinking, “Oh no!  Woe is me!  How on earth can I cope with no ‘whatever’ in order to overcome this problem?!?”, Objectivity looks in and sees it differently.  Objectivity sees that ‘Yes, indeed – there is a problem.’  But from the position outside of the situation, Objectivity can also see the required outcome.  See the limitations, and therefore see what needs to be achieved in order to reach the desired result.  Objectivity just shrugs, and isn’t affected at all.

By looking in from the perspective of not feeling limited or restricted, it is more able to see what needs to be accomplished, and come up with a way to get things done.

With the mind all caught up in, ‘I can’t do this’, ‘I don’t have that’, there is too much emphasis on the negative aspects, and positivity is not going to get a foot in the door.

Getting on with the rest of your life begins with the acceptance of the ‘new reality’, and an ability to be objective rather than subjective.  It is time to move on.  What’s done is done!  Start getting on with the rest of what life has to offer you!  Life goes on with or without you!  It will pass you by unless you reach out from where you have been tossed, grab a hold of something that is moving in the right direction, AND DON’T LET GO!

 

Juggling the Balls of Life

Recently a concept of coping with the many juggling balls of life revealed itself to me.  How often do the many ‘things that ought to be dealt with NOW’ end up by being far too many things to cope with?  All of them being tossed haphazardly into the air, like 9 juggling balls, and each and every one of them coming crashing to the ground, uncontrolled completely.

Simply by prioritizing each ball, and picking up the most important ball by itself, juggling this one ball becomes EASY!

In the example I found, each ball gets assigned a $ value.  One of $1000, three $100 balls and five $1 balls.  You are told that if you can control the balls for one whole minute, you get to keep the $ value of all the controlled balls.  With my juggling skills being virtually non-existent I am simply going to pick up the $1000 ball, and hang onto it for a minute.  It’s a no-brainer!

Why bother trying to cope with all the balls at one time!?  Not all of the tasks that are the juggling balls you are considering managing today, are of equal value.  By picking the most important one, the ‘$1000 ball’, and leaving the less valuable ones lying where they are, there is absolutely no difficulty in achieving the ‘hold’ of the ball for the extent of the task.  The other balls aren’t going anywhere, they are there to tackle one at a time later on.

The trick is to write down in one place all the tasks, (balls), therefore identifying them, and selecting the most important one to deal with by itself.  The rest of the ‘balls’ will be there, written down when it is time to move on to the next task for the day.  The less important balls can be totally disregarded, forgotten, and ignored!

I have found this method to be particularly helpful with regard to making it easy to stay focused on the ‘job at hand’, and eliminating the problem of being distracted by each and every thing I come across which requires my attention!  When I see something that needs doing, I can just recognize that it is not in any way related to the $1000 ball I am holding currently, and it is EASY to ignore it, and move on with the task of holding onto the single ball until the end of the task.

I found this information at Passion Planner website from a pinterest pin.  http://www.passionplanner.com

Passion Planner pgs 4 n 5

To hear more regarding being distracted, not focusing, or ‘job at hand’, stay tuned!  Follow me because this week I will endeavour to post more along these lines!  (I have now selected the ball to hang onto for posting this week… can I hold onto it long enough to complete the task??  We will find out!)

The Most Scary Thing I’ve Done In Years!

I was emailing a close friend who expressed an interest in starting her own blog.  I inserted saved data from my own very recent, scary journey down the dark and windy path of ‘Blog Creation’, and added loads of notes!

At the end of the email in an effort to try and expel some of the fears that had been impeding my own travels on said path, I used the analogy of just shutting her eyes and leaping!  There is a vision in my mind of one with one’s eyes closed tight, thumb and forefinger gripping onto one’s nasal apertures for all they are worth, and LEAPING!  Knees bent up close to the body, spare arm wrapped around the shins, and going far beyond the diving platform!  This to me, is the best way to embark upon a scary journey!  Feet first, eyes closed, past the point of no return!

It is a dark, overcast and therefore moonless night.  The wind is howling so that waves are formed in the pool and are crashing against the sides of the pool, making abrupt, crashing noises.  The water is black, there is no light to make any reflection of anything!

The deep, dark ‘pool’ of unknown-ness, is this pool of making a ‘Blog’… site…website??… thing!  It is the pool I find myself floundering around in, trying to settle into a comfortable way forward, a stroke that allows comfortable breathing, progress, and enjoyment.  Instead I find myself bobbing up and down, a bit of dog-paddle for a while, then dunked back under with ideas of what I want to be able to do, but with no idea where to head next!

Then I went on to say that it is the most scary thing I have done since….  a long pause, trying to think of something scary that I have achieved…  AFS – a year abroad living a family I don’t know??  No!!!  The most scary thing I have EVER done, would HAVE to be waking up in hospital with a head injury!  Not scary then, but by far the most scary thing I have ever overcome!

A newspaper photo featuring me & my ‘closies’ in intensive care.

When I regained consciousness, the awareness of the situation fell on a very small, closed and dim brain.  Meaning that the scary journey seemed entirely normal, and not at all frightening, until much, much later on. And then, over and over for quite some time!

The most scary parts of the journey were the periods of realizing that life as I knew it, was over.  Almost 25 years of being who I was, the dreams and ideas, all disintegrated, blown to smithereens because someone else was in a hurry, and pulled out to pass a truck and trailer on a blind corner.

And now I am on this path of my journey!  Scary too!  With terminology I really don’t understand, and ‘use’ only because I have seen them and have an idea kind of related to what they are referring to.  The worst part is that it has cost me $!  It is not even the intended outcome for starting down this path!  This dark and winding path is only the START of my journey, which will hopefully end up by publishing my first book.

A brilliant newsletter re head injury and TBI info, inserted itself into my path this week… http://www.brainline.org/  check it out!  Newsletter 62 was my introduction to this website.

‘DOIN’ IT!’

This is the start of my ‘blogging career’…  Doin’ it and learning as I go!

It will be baby steps at first as I follow tutorials until I can pick up what exactly they are putting down, and then hopefully I manage to ‘file’ it away in the grey matter for not too far in the future reference to repeat the process until it just happens…